Be a Bad Asian
Live a life where YOU are less tired, stressed, and overwhelmed WITHOUT GUILT and SHAME.
Therapy with The Bad Asian Therapist
Therapy for Overwhelmed Good Asian Boys and Girls
Calling all my Good Asian boys and girls!
Are you dragging yourself home every day, completely drained?
You hate your job, but you’re —working yourself to exhaustion, coming home just to work more because you’re afraid of getting fired.
You argue with your partner and fight. When you see your parents and it ends in a shouting match.
You’re always trying to be “good.”
Be the perfect one. Don’t spend too much, listen to your parents, keep everything in line.
You know, a “Good Asian.”
You feel trapped in toxic family dynamics, like there’s no way to change things.
You’re breaking your back to be good, yet somehow, it’s never enough. You don’t even know what you truly want anymore—only what you’ve been told you should want.
Are you a “Good Asian?”
Good Asians. That’s what we were taught to be, right?
You NEVER ask for what you want. You drop hints, hoping others will figure it out.
You bury your feelings, prioritizing others’ happiness at the cost of your own.
You live with scarcity—saving obsessively and only spending when there’s a “good deal.”
You focus on surviving, not thriving. You play it safe, avoid risks, and cling to certainty. When things don’t go well, you get anxious
You sacrifice your happiness to keep everyone else content.
You run away from angry or sad feelings. You think “being emotional” you weak or bad.
You avoid conflict—or back down as soon as it starts.
Is this who YOU are? Is it time to redefine what it means to be "good"?
Here’s the thing—none of this is “good.”
It’s holding you back. What if you stopped playing small?
What if you let yourself feel, speak up, take risks, and put your own joy first for once?
The Fix:
Lets Unleash your Inner Bad Asian
Bad Asians say what they mean, no filters, no apologies
Bad Asians feel their emotions fully and let them show—no holding back
Bad Asians face their struggles head-on because hiding isn’t the answer
Bad Asians want more than just to get by—they’re here to thrive
Bad Asians refuse to carry the weight of shame and guilt that’s not theirs to bear
Bad Asians love themselves fiercely, flaws and all
Bad Asians choose abundance, because life isn’t meant to be lived in scarcity
Sound Too Good to be True?
Maybe it feels uncomfortable, maybe it feels bold—but isn’t it time to rewrite the script?
Let’s make space for the real you.
Meet your Therapy Guide!
Alex Ly, The Bad Asian Therapist
I’m the Bad Asian Therapist.
I’ve been a “bad Asian” my whole life—barely speaking Chinese, dodging spicy food, and saying the stuff most people wouldn’t dare to.
For years, I tried to play the “good” role, to fit in, to meet everyone else’s expectations.
Spoiler alert: it didn’t work.
Now, I help others break free from the same trap and embrace who they really are—fully, unapologetically.
In therapy, we cut the fluff. It’s real talk, no pretending. Just the kind of honest, eye-opening conversations that push you to grow.
It’s not easy. Growth and healing never is. But it’s always worth it.
Stop hiding behind grades, titles, achievements, or whatever mask you’ve been told to wear.
Let’s dig deep and rewrite the story. Let’s find that bold, fearless version of you—the one who’s been waiting to break free.
Start unleashing your inner Bad Asian!
Schedule a Intro Call with the Bad Asian Therapist
Therapy Offerings
Online Therapy in California
Not near by? Want some convience? Let’s go online! Video therapy can be done by any California Resident
In-Person Therapy in Fremont, CA
Need something more intimate? See me in the flesh at my Fremont therapy office!
Therapy Specializations
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Are you a “Good Asian”? Let’s be real—if you are, there’s a good chance you’re carrying some serious anxiety.
Maybe it’s about money, family expectations, your future, or that constant feeling of not being enough. Whatever it is, anxiety isn’t here to help you—it’s here to hold you back.
But guess what? You don’t have to play by those rules. It’s time to unleash your inner “Bad Asian”—the one who says no to perfection, no to the guilt, and no to the pressure.
Let’s kick anxiety to the curb and make space for the unapologetic, bold, and authentic you.
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Asian americans is the core of what I do. If you identify as Asian, 1st gen, 2nd gen, Asian Ajacent, half asian, or just idenetify with what I say, then I can help you. You deserve a therapist the knows your culture, gets your experience, and is brave enough to challenge your experience.
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What if the struggles you’re facing right now aren’t because you’re “lazy” but because you’ve been carrying weight that isn’t even yours? Let’s get real—at The Bad Asian Therapist, we’re here to unpack the hard stuff. We’re talking about trauma, not just yours, but the kind that’s been passed down through your parents, their parents, and generations before them. It’s time to stop blaming yourself and start understanding the bigger picture.
